Management in Family Systems In-Class Comments
My comments on the books Family Resource Management written by Tami James Moore and Sylvia M. Asay and Til Debt Do Us Part written by Dr. Bernard E. Poduska:
Based on Chapter 14 in Family Resource Management
Stearns writes that “more and more parents are suffering anxiety about their ability to parent”. He also suggests that “parents today are more worried than their own parents about competence and may feel guilty”. This is something that I can definitely see being true in today’s world and society. The world that we live in today is more complicated and complex. There is a lot more technology and dangers than there were in the past. Growing up in these dangers makes parents more aware and conscious about their children having to face these same experiences, and therefore, scared for their children; or at least that’s the way it is for me. I know that I am anxious about raising my own children because I know how much of a responsibility it really is.
Based on "Spent But Not Collected" in Til Debt Do Us Part
I think that the idea of a credit card is something that some people take too lightly. It’s so easy to just put it on your card or add it to your list and pay later. That is what gets most people in trouble. I am thankful that I do not have a credit card right now because after reading this book and learning everything in this class, I realize that there are certain things to be done in order to stay out of debt. If I would have gotten a credit card earlier on in life, I would just be charging everything to it without even realizing that there’s a smarter way to handle your finances. I like the idea of this book where Poduska describes a credit card charge as spent but not collected. This means that even though you are buying and receiving items, you aren’t actually paying for them on the spot and it is very easy for it to all pile up and can hurt you in the long run.
Based on "Kohlberg's Stages of Moral Reasoning" in Til Debt Do Us PartI remember learning about these stages in high school and it was really neat to see how they can also be applied to marriage and family life. I think many problems that arise in a marriage usually come from the fact that the couple is still stuck in stage 4 of moral reasoning and are living their marriage the way they think a marriage should work rather than how their marriage should work for them. The couple is still stuck doing things for their own self rather than each other and have not yet developed a “one-ness”. They are more concerned about working the way they think they should rather than working together and communicating. It is important to know that so that it can be this separation can be prevented in your own marriage and that you can create a sense of 'one-ness' in your own relationship or marriage.
Based on Chapter 14 in Family Resource Management
Stearns writes that “more and more parents are suffering anxiety about their ability to parent”. He also suggests that “parents today are more worried than their own parents about competence and may feel guilty”. This is something that I can definitely see being true in today’s world and society. The world that we live in today is more complicated and complex. There is a lot more technology and dangers than there were in the past. Growing up in these dangers makes parents more aware and conscious about their children having to face these same experiences, and therefore, scared for their children; or at least that’s the way it is for me. I know that I am anxious about raising my own children because I know how much of a responsibility it really is.
Based on "Spent But Not Collected" in Til Debt Do Us Part
I think that the idea of a credit card is something that some people take too lightly. It’s so easy to just put it on your card or add it to your list and pay later. That is what gets most people in trouble. I am thankful that I do not have a credit card right now because after reading this book and learning everything in this class, I realize that there are certain things to be done in order to stay out of debt. If I would have gotten a credit card earlier on in life, I would just be charging everything to it without even realizing that there’s a smarter way to handle your finances. I like the idea of this book where Poduska describes a credit card charge as spent but not collected. This means that even though you are buying and receiving items, you aren’t actually paying for them on the spot and it is very easy for it to all pile up and can hurt you in the long run.
Based on "Kohlberg's Stages of Moral Reasoning" in Til Debt Do Us PartI remember learning about these stages in high school and it was really neat to see how they can also be applied to marriage and family life. I think many problems that arise in a marriage usually come from the fact that the couple is still stuck in stage 4 of moral reasoning and are living their marriage the way they think a marriage should work rather than how their marriage should work for them. The couple is still stuck doing things for their own self rather than each other and have not yet developed a “one-ness”. They are more concerned about working the way they think they should rather than working together and communicating. It is important to know that so that it can be this separation can be prevented in your own marriage and that you can create a sense of 'one-ness' in your own relationship or marriage.